Guys there’s something going on that needs to stop immediately. Well two things actually. First, we need stop shaming couples who want kids close together. This is constantly happening to Chappy and I and it is so annoying. And when I say close together I’m talking around two years apart so that’s not even thatttt close! Why is it the norm for people to sarcastically ask if we’re “ready for another” and just assume no one would even dream about wanting another kid so soon and then make us feel bad for wanting another. People seriously look at us like we’re insane and actually call us crazy (and say worse) when we admit we’re already dreaming about our next squishy baby. Sorry my kid is soooo awesome that he makes us want more! Ha it’s not our fault!
Second we need to stop this notion that the second child doesn’t get as much care or attention. Yes, I understand that they won’t get all of your attention because HELLO they’re not the only child but I am sick and tired of people telling me “oh you do that now but you won’t do that with your second child.” Want to know the biggest example I have of this? Breastfeeding! People are constantly telling me that I won’t want to put the effort into breastfeeding when the second child comes around. Like who says that? Also for me breastfeeding has been easy which doesn’t necessarily mean it’ll be easy the second time but I’d much rather just whip out my boob than have to pump or mix up a bottle (and clean everything that involves.) Other examples, “oh with your second child you’ll just let them cry and cry. You’ll be used to the crying by then,” “Home made food, ha! Yeah, that won’t happen with the second child,” “Constantly checking on them when they sleep? Yeah with your second you’ll put them down and never look back.” Ummmmm I AM A SECOND CHILD soo maybe that’s why these comments annoy me so much? I don’t know Ha but nonetheless these comments need to stop. Who would want to be raised under the notion that your parents tried harder with your sibling? Every child is different and has different needs. Breastfeeding may not work for every child, one baby might sleep like a champ while the next might only sleep being held. All those things are perfectly normal and okay but saying I won’t want to put the effort into my next child is not okay with me so stop telling me that’s how I’m going to be!
Mommy shaming in general is way too abundant and needs to be stopped so ummmm just stop all this nonsense already! K thanks.
End rant. Ha
Now here are some cute squishy baby pictures of Waylen when he was a newbie to cheer you back up!
Well either the g-parents royally messed with Waylen’s sleep patterns or the 4 month regression is no joke! Exactly one day after Waylen turned 4 months he went from sleeping 7+ hours to waking EVERY HOUR. He didn’t even do that as a newborn so it was a realllll change for us. Luckily he still wasn’t really fussy when he’d wake up, just needy. He’d basically wake up and whine, we’d pick him up, and he’d be back to sleep in less than 5. So, easy but still annoying to deal with every hour. Now that we’ve made it to 5 months the sleep situation has improved but it still isn’t back to what it once was and we still have some really off nights. Womp womp. He’s started having more night feeds again which I believe is because he is such a distracted eater during the day! He’s sooo interested in every thing these days it’s hard to get him to focus on food for long but hopefully we can get that back to normal too.
Some of Waylen’s favorite things these days are his bouncer, sitting in his high chair, inch worming across the couch, the Alphabet song, watching the puppies play, and an ugly little elephant car seat toy. He loves to chew everything, especially burp clothes, and is still sliming up the world with his spit. Ha He’s ticklish, laughs like Sheldon from the Big Bang Theory, and smiles 90% of the day. He is still my happy, easy baby!
We’ve brought him to breweries, the beach, restaurants, baseball games, bottle shops, and even a house party and he’s been great pretty much every time! I am definitely one of those parents who just brings their baby everywhere and I don’t care what you think about it! Ha. So far we’ve only left Waylen with the g-parents when we had to attend a wedding and to be honest I doubt we’ll be doing it again any time soon.
This next month we have SO many exciting things happening; family trips, beach vacations, my last day of work and I just can’t wait to see what new things Waylen will learn.
I still can’t believe I have a 5 month old!! Where did the time go?!?
It still barely feels real that I actually gave birth already but Waylen is one month old today!
He is officially huge ha aka 10 lbs. 12 oz. and clearly is still nursing great. Our days pretty much revolve around eating, sleeping, and pooping. So far we’ve been lucky since he’s not a very fussy baby but apparently that can change around 6 weeks so we’ll see! He goes about 4 hours between feedings at night (from start to start) but then can eat every 1-3 hours during the day. We are still exclusively breastfeeding so I pretty much just get to sleep in short intervals while Chappy sleeps all night haha. It’s okay though because Chappy will change all the diapers while he’s home during the day to make up for it.
Some of Waylen’s favorite things thus far are his Ergobaby Carrier, cuddling with Ramone, skin to skin with mom, and when dad mimics the Arby’s “we have the meats” commercial. (Yes, I’m serious about that last one ha.) He had a little bit of baby ache at around 2 weeks old but it cleared quickly, he lifts his head from side to side while on tummy time, he makes eye contact, smiles, and loves to get his hair washed.
As for me I am officially down 24.4 lbs. of the 19.2 I gained during pregnancy. I have essentially lost all my muscle and my ass and arms are nonexistent these days so I figure that’s why I’ve lost more than I gained. I seriously cannot wait until I can get back to exercising and lifting some weights! So far all I do is walk 2-3 miles around the neighborhood every few days. My stomach is pretty much back to its normal shape but it’s about 4 shades darker then the rest of my skin and my linea nigra is still shining strong ha. I see lots of one piece bathing suits in my near future until it fades.
Besides that I feel back to my normal self though which is another reason why it seems so crazy I gave birth! It kind of all seems like a dream.
Here are progress comparison pictures for each week postpartum so far:
And here is a comparison of 8 weeks pregnant, 37 weeks pregnant, and 1 month postpartum:
My diet really hasn’t been the best postpartum. These days I have had a serious sweet tooth and could eat donuts or Bojangles boberry biscuits everyday (and when I say “could” I really mean “do” ha.) I really should control myself but so far I haven’t been! Thank goodness for breastfeeding!
Overall this last month has been amazing! We are quickly settling into a rhythm and getting used to this whole parenting thing. Don’t worry though, we won’t get too comfortable. We know babies can be unpredictable!