Guys there’s something going on that needs to stop immediately. Well two things actually. First, we need stop shaming couples who want kids close together. This is constantly happening to Chappy and I and it is so annoying. And when I say close together I’m talking around two years apart so that’s not even thatttt close! Why is it the norm for people to sarcastically ask if we’re “ready for another” and just assume no one would even dream about wanting another kid so soon and then make us feel bad for wanting another. People seriously look at us like we’re insane and actually call us crazy (and say worse) when we admit we’re already dreaming about our next squishy baby. Sorry my kid is soooo awesome that he makes us want more! Ha it’s not our fault!
Second we need to stop this notion that the second child doesn’t get as much care or attention. Yes, I understand that they won’t get all of your attention because HELLO they’re not the only child but I am sick and tired of people telling me “oh you do that now but you won’t do that with your second child.” Want to know the biggest example I have of this? Breastfeeding! People are constantly telling me that I won’t want to put the effort into breastfeeding when the second child comes around. Like who says that? Also for me breastfeeding has been easy which doesn’t necessarily mean it’ll be easy the second time but I’d much rather just whip out my boob than have to pump or mix up a bottle (and clean everything that involves.) Other examples, “oh with your second child you’ll just let them cry and cry. You’ll be used to the crying by then,” “Home made food, ha! Yeah, that won’t happen with the second child,” “Constantly checking on them when they sleep? Yeah with your second you’ll put them down and never look back.” Ummmmm I AM A SECOND CHILD soo maybe that’s why these comments annoy me so much? I don’t know Ha but nonetheless these comments need to stop. Who would want to be raised under the notion that your parents tried harder with your sibling? Every child is different and has different needs. Breastfeeding may not work for every child, one baby might sleep like a champ while the next might only sleep being held. All those things are perfectly normal and okay but saying I won’t want to put the effort into my next child is not okay with me so stop telling me that’s how I’m going to be!
Mommy shaming in general is way too abundant and needs to be stopped so ummmm just stop all this nonsense already! K thanks.
End rant. Ha
Now here are some cute squishy baby pictures of Waylen when he was a newbie to cheer you back up!
How is it even possible that I am a mother of a 6 month old baby?!? I remember thinking it was going to be FOREVER until we got to feed him real food but I blinked and here we are! We are going with baby let weaning so it may get messy. Wish us luck!
This past month Waylen has really made some big leaps. He essentially can sit up on his own (as long as he doesn’t get too excited) and practices chewing on pretty much everything. He LOVES reaching for his toes, his crinkly bear block, holding books during story time, his teeth flash card (literally cracks up at this for some reason,) and is obsessed with any cup but especially Chappy’s water bottle. He will do anything to get a hold of it and honestly knows exactly how to use it.
Also his giggles have got out of control and I will never get tired of hearing them! They have graduated from Sheldon’s laugh to actual giggles and for the most part he laughs when you mess something up. Dropping a toy, getting hit in the head… etc… all those things are almost guaranteed to get some giggles!
A few weeks ago we took our first big family trip and Waylen did amazing! We drove 8+ hours down to Florida at night and Waylen slept the entire way except for a quick feeding. Even with a change in schedule he was still our happy baby and was great at taking his naps whenever we were. Next up we will be testing his abilities on a flight to California … Now that I am still worried about.
Sleep still hasn’t been great but we are getting through it. He now is mostly sleeping in a sleep sac which is easy for us but also allows him to startle awake more. I’ve also been better about nursing him in a quiet room during the day to help with the distractions which has cut down on some of the night feedings but we are still not back to those glorious 7+ hour stretches. Eventually we’ll get there though! We also did have a little hiccup when Waylen came down with his first fever! Nothing a little skin to skin and extra cuddles couldn’t solve though and of course Waylen never stopped being his happy little self throughout the whole thing. I think I was more uncomfortable than he actually was and now that I have mastitis I KNOW I am. Mastitis is NO JOKE!
The most important change that happened this month though is Waylen saying mom!! Okay so it typically sounds more like “Ma” or “Mum” and he mostly says it when he’ll fussing BUT I’ll take it!
Well I guess that’s it! We start steamed broccoli shortly so I’ll keep you posted on how it goes! I don’t have many other baby friends so if anyone has any advice for BLW I’d love to here from you!
Well either the g-parents royally messed with Waylen’s sleep patterns or the 4 month regression is no joke! Exactly one day after Waylen turned 4 months he went from sleeping 7+ hours to waking EVERY HOUR. He didn’t even do that as a newborn so it was a realllll change for us. Luckily he still wasn’t really fussy when he’d wake up, just needy. He’d basically wake up and whine, we’d pick him up, and he’d be back to sleep in less than 5. So, easy but still annoying to deal with every hour. Now that we’ve made it to 5 months the sleep situation has improved but it still isn’t back to what it once was and we still have some really off nights. Womp womp. He’s started having more night feeds again which I believe is because he is such a distracted eater during the day! He’s sooo interested in every thing these days it’s hard to get him to focus on food for long but hopefully we can get that back to normal too.
Some of Waylen’s favorite things these days are his bouncer, sitting in his high chair, inch worming across the couch, the Alphabet song, watching the puppies play, and an ugly little elephant car seat toy. He loves to chew everything, especially burp clothes, and is still sliming up the world with his spit. Ha He’s ticklish, laughs like Sheldon from the Big Bang Theory, and smiles 90% of the day. He is still my happy, easy baby!
We’ve brought him to breweries, the beach, restaurants, baseball games, bottle shops, and even a house party and he’s been great pretty much every time! I am definitely one of those parents who just brings their baby everywhere and I don’t care what you think about it! Ha. So far we’ve only left Waylen with the g-parents when we had to attend a wedding and to be honest I doubt we’ll be doing it again any time soon.
This next month we have SO many exciting things happening; family trips, beach vacations, my last day of work and I just can’t wait to see what new things Waylen will learn.
I still can’t believe I have a 5 month old!! Where did the time go?!?
Alright, here me out. I swear I’m not some sicko who’s gone off the deep end. When getting a facial at MUD the other day I noticed that one of their add ons is breast milk. While I wasn’t quite ready to dive right in and use some strangers breast milk to lather up my face, it did spark my interest. You see, I am a nursing mother who just happens to have a steady enough supply to spare some milk in the quest for perfect skin. Now in general my skin care routine is pretty simple. I use all drug store products and that MUD facial I just had was literally the first professional thing I had ever done to my skin. This is how my typical night time routine goes… double cleanse with Cetaphil, Roc Retinol night cream, then No7 intense night cream. Pretty simple.
To try out this whole breast milk deal I decided to swop out my second Cetaphil cleanse for milk. Here is how it went .. and no judging my extremely flattering no makeup selfies 😂
I am usually pretty blessed when it comes to acne but with Waylen at the start of his 4 month regression and me upping my caffeine and sugar intake to keep up, a few surprise zits popped up. Now if you went to any baby class while pregnant I’m sure you heard that you can literally put breast milk on anything to make it better. Baby scratches his face? Put breast milk on it. Baby acne? Put breast milk on it. Nipples sore from nursing? Don’t bother buying creams, just use breast milk. Because of this I was pretty excited to try out my milk while having a fresh third eye on my forehead. Hopefully it works wonders and FAST!
Sooo after all that I didn’t really notice a huge difference. My zit did disappear but then again they always do eventually right? Ha. Ever since giving birth I’ll get these little dry patches of skin around my eyes but after a week of breast milk those are all gone so at least that’s something! Besides that though, my skin looks pretty much the same. Womp womp. Will I keep it up? Maybe, I mean it is free and I wouldn’t be going through my cleanser as fast… plus who knows, maybe I’ll see a bigger difference after more than 5 days!
I’ll keep you posted!
There are a bunch of wonderful… but mostly awful things people tell you about what happens after delivery; I’m sure I don’t need to get into all the gory details… I would like to make a point to mention though, just like everything else with pregnancy, those icky, horrible things don’t necessarily happen to everyone so I wouldn’t spend time fretting over them until you’re actually experiencing them! No painful peeing, hemorrhoids, or that unspeakable “second delivery” when you go #2 for me. Ha and I swear I was pretty worried about that last one after the things I’d read. Like more scared of that then actually delivering my baby. Now there are some other things that I did experience that I didn’t even realize we’re a thing.
- Immediately after delivery my legs were SO shakey, like convulsing! Apparently it’s called “Labor Shakes” and is perfectly normal.
- The first few times I stood up I felt like I was in an episode of The Walking Dead and all my organs were falling out of my abdomen. Makes sense though, they all had been smushed up in my ribs due to the 8lb baby who had taken over residency. (I swear my stomach used to growl in between my boobs ha.) Once he was gone they could finally retake their normal positions and they wasted no time (literally) falling into place ha
- Two words: night sweats. I’m not even someone who really sweats but OH MY GOSH did I have night sweats the first couple of weeks.
- Dry Eye Syndrome. Luckily I don’t wear contacts which could make this an even more annoying issue but my eyes are SO dry. They constantly feel as if I have no tears at all and are quickly shriveling up to nothing.
- Postpartum Depression in dads. So this is totally a thing. Chappy was WAY more emotional after Waylen was born. Luckily it was all happy tears at commercials and puppies but one night I teased him that I thought I was supposed to be the depressed one which then peaked my interest so I googled and guess what? Postpartum depression in fathers is a real thing!
- The Linea Nigra does not just go away. I always figured it would start fading immediately after delivery and be gone within a few weeks. Nope. This bad boy is here to stay… at least for a while. Apparently they can last for months or years (or in rare cases– forever) after delivery. Breastfeeding also keeps them longer so I guess I should get used to my swiggly little friend.
- Speaking of weird things on your stomach, it may be abnormally tan compared to the rest of your body. Luckily this doesn’t last as long and will start fading a few weeks after delivery.
- Itchy skin and/or armpits while breastfeeding. My neck and collar bone area would seriously get SO itchy when breastfeeding in the beginning but luckily it only lasted the first few weeks. Apparently it has something to do with the hormones released during letdown or something, who knows!
- Boulders as boobs. Yes, I expected my boobs to get bigger what I didn’t expect was to get what I can only describe as porn star boobs. You know what I’m talking about.. like huge, fake, hard as rocks, abnormally perky… HA I swear. They eventually went down but I guess I now know what I’d look like with implants anddd that’s never going to happen
- Breastfeeding can be messy. While you’re waiting until your milk supply to even out you can really soak your baby. Like a milk shower… I’m telling you … it can REALLY spray ha who knew?!
- The thirst is real while breastfeeding. I could have just drank a gallon of water before nursing yet as soon as I started it would be as if I had spent the last 24 hrs. stranded on a desert island.
- Hair loss. Basically you haven’t been losing hair the last 9-10 months so when your hormones get back to normal you shed like crazy. This hasn’t happen to me yet (it usually occurs around the 4 month mark) but I am currently still stuck in the “my hair doesn’t grow phase” which is very convenient for the whole shaving my legs deal.
- Phantom kicks. Remember those little flutters you felt in the beginning, well they can come back! Which then just makes you question if you were even feeling your baby to begin with, right?!
These are just a few of the many, MANY weird things that can happen post baby. Basically anything goes postpartum ha. Sometimes you swell, get acne, cramps, migraines, dry skin, hemorrhoids, body aches, and not to mention the fact that you literally are blessed with the longest period of your life. Seriously though I think you could go to your doctor with any crazy postpartum symptom and they’ll say it’s normal. Pregnancy and the aftermath can we awkward, uncomfortable, and just plain annoying. Trust me, it is not a glamorous situation but in the end you get an adorable tiny human that you LITERALLY MADE so it’s totally worth it! I promise!