Just Stop

Guys there’s something going on that needs to stop immediately. Well two things actually. First, we need stop shaming couples who want kids close together. This is constantly happening to Chappy and I and it is so annoying. And when I say close together I’m talking around two years apart so that’s not even thatttt close! Why is it the norm for people to sarcastically ask if we’re “ready for another” and just assume no one would even dream about wanting another kid so soon and then make us feel bad for wanting another. People seriously look at us like we’re insane and actually call us crazy (and say worse) when we admit we’re already dreaming about our next squishy baby. Sorry my kid is soooo awesome that he makes us want more! Ha it’s not our fault!

Second we need to stop this notion that the second child doesn’t get as much care or attention. Yes, I understand that they won’t get all of your attention because HELLO they’re not the only child but I am sick and tired of people telling me “oh you do that now but you won’t do that with your second child.” Want to know the biggest example I have of this? Breastfeeding! People are constantly telling me that I won’t want to put the effort into breastfeeding when the second child comes around. Like who says that? Also for me breastfeeding has been easy which doesn’t necessarily mean it’ll be easy the second time but I’d much rather just whip out my boob than have to pump or mix up a bottle (and clean everything that involves.) Other examples, “oh with your second child you’ll just let them cry and cry. You’ll be used to the crying by then,” “Home made food, ha! Yeah, that won’t happen with the second child,” “Constantly checking on them when they sleep? Yeah with your second you’ll put them down and never look back.” Ummmmm I AM A SECOND CHILD soo maybe that’s why these comments annoy me so much? I don’t know Ha but nonetheless these comments need to stop. Who would want to be raised under the notion that your parents tried harder with your sibling? Every child is different and has different needs. Breastfeeding may not work for every child, one baby might sleep like a champ while the next might only sleep being held. All those things are perfectly normal and okay but saying I won’t want to put the effort into my next child is not okay with me so stop telling me that’s how I’m going to be! 

Mommy shaming in general is way too abundant and needs to be stopped so ummmm just stop all this nonsense already! K thanks.

End rant. Ha 

Now here are some cute squishy baby pictures of Waylen when he was a newbie to cheer you back up!

Baby Led Weaning: Week 1

We are officially one week into Baby Led Weaning and let me tell you it has been so much fun (and messy!) We still started out slow with our introduction of different foods so this is what our first week looked like: 

  • Days 1-3: broccoli 
  • Days 3-6: broccoli and sweet potato
  • Day 7: sweet potato, broccoli, avocado 

To prepare the food for Waylen’s little hands and toothless mouth we steamed the broccoli, roasted slices of sweet potato in olive oil, and sliced the avocado with a little skin left so it would be easier to grasp. Overall the experience has been great! Right now he definitely gets more food on his hands, face, highchair, floor, hair, mom… (etc. ha) then he actually swallows but he’s learning and seems to love chewing on all the different textures! His facial expressions are UNREAL and are seriously hilarious to watch. 



Now I’m not going to lie, BLW is not for everyone! Your baby is going to gag/cough at some point. The first time is a little scary but both you and your baby will get through it and quickly learn what is manageable. Waylen gagged a little the first day and has barely gagged since but he is still learning how big of bites to take. He usually is fine but every once and a while he’ll chomp off a mouth full and will give me this look of confusion and disgust ha. Something along the lines of “what the hell is this mom?!?.” Then he’ll just spit out what he doesn’t want and keep going. 

His favorite thing so far is gnawing on a broccoli stem. I swear no matter what why I lay the broccoli he loves to pick it up by the head and chew away on the stem. Not exactly what I had in mind but oh well! 


Next up on the menu is zucchini, carrots, mushrooms, eggs… and like 100 more things ha so I’ll keep you posted on how it goes! 

Waylen: 6 Months

How is it even possible that I am a mother of a 6 month old baby?!? I remember thinking it was going to be FOREVER until we got to feed him real food but I blinked and here we are! We are going with baby let weaning so it may get messy. Wish us luck!


This past month Waylen has really made some big leaps. He essentially can sit up on his own (as long as he doesn’t get too excited) and practices chewing on pretty much everything. He LOVES reaching for his toes, his crinkly bear block, holding books during story time, his teeth flash card (literally cracks up at this for some reason,) and is obsessed with any cup but especially Chappy’s water bottle. He will do anything to get a hold of it and honestly knows exactly how to use it.  




Also his giggles have got out of control and I will never get tired of hearing them! They have graduated from Sheldon’s laugh to actual giggles and for the most part he laughs when you mess something up. Dropping a toy, getting hit in the head… etc… all those things are almost guaranteed to get some giggles! 


A few weeks ago we took our first big family trip and Waylen did amazing! We drove 8+ hours down to Florida at night and Waylen slept the entire way except for a quick feeding. Even with a change in schedule he was still our happy baby and was great at taking his naps whenever we were. Next up we will be testing his abilities on a flight to California … Now that I am still worried about. 




Sleep still hasn’t been great but we are getting through it. He now is mostly sleeping in a sleep sac which is easy for us but also allows him to startle awake more. I’ve also been better about nursing him in a quiet room during the day to help with the distractions which has cut down on some of the night feedings but we are still not back to those glorious 7+ hour stretches. Eventually we’ll get there though! We also did have a little hiccup when Waylen came down with his first fever! Nothing a little skin to skin and extra cuddles couldn’t solve though and of course Waylen never stopped being his happy little self throughout the whole thing. I think I was more uncomfortable than he actually was and now that I have mastitis I KNOW I am. Mastitis is NO JOKE! 


The most important change that happened this month though is Waylen saying mom!! Okay so it typically sounds more like “Ma” or “Mum” and he mostly says it when he’ll fussing BUT I’ll take it! 

Well I guess that’s it! We start steamed broccoli shortly so I’ll keep you posted on how it goes! I don’t have many other baby friends so if anyone has any advice for BLW I’d love to here from you! 

Breast Milk Cleanser

Alright, here me out. I swear I’m not some sicko who’s gone off the deep end. When getting a facial at MUD the other day I noticed that one of their add ons is breast milk. While I wasn’t quite ready to dive right in and use some strangers breast milk to lather up my face, it did spark my interest. You see, I am a nursing mother who just happens to have a steady enough supply to spare some milk in the quest for perfect skin. Now in general my skin care routine is pretty simple. I use all drug store products and that MUD facial I just had was literally the first professional thing I had ever done to my skin. This is how my typical night time routine goes… double cleanse with Cetaphil, Roc Retinol night cream, then No7 intense night cream. Pretty simple.


 To try out this whole breast milk deal I decided to swop out my second Cetaphil cleanse for milk. Here is how it went .. and no judging my extremely flattering no makeup selfies 😂

Before:

I am usually pretty blessed when it comes to acne but with Waylen at the start of his 4 month regression and me upping my caffeine and sugar intake to keep up, a few surprise zits popped up. Now if you went to any baby class while pregnant I’m sure you heard that you can literally put breast milk on anything to make it better. Baby scratches his face? Put breast milk on it. Baby acne? Put breast milk on it. Nipples sore from nursing? Don’t bother buying creams, just use breast milk. Because of this I was pretty excited to try out my milk while having a fresh third eye on my forehead. Hopefully it works wonders and FAST!

Day 1: 


Day 2: 

Day 3:

Day 4:

Day 5:


Sooo after all that I didn’t really notice a huge difference. My zit did disappear but then again they always do eventually right? Ha. Ever since giving birth I’ll get these little dry patches of skin around my eyes but after a week of breast milk those are all gone so at least that’s something! Besides that though, my skin looks pretty much the same. Womp womp. Will I keep it up? Maybe, I mean it is free and I wouldn’t be going through my cleanser as fast… plus who knows, maybe I’ll see a bigger difference after more than 5 days! 

I’ll keep you posted! 

Waylen: 3 Months 

My little bean is rapidly becoming not so little anymore. I mean people always say they grow up so fast but geez, I never realized how fast it really goes! 

No check up for Waylen this month so I’m not sure of his exact weight. I would estimate it is around 15 lbs. though. He is still my chunky monkey ha. 

As of now Waylen is pretty much a little man. He currently can hold a plank longer than me (during tummy time) and really uses his forearms to lift himself up. Plus he officially rolled over at 10 weeks and now also does this weird inch worm scooting while on tummy time. He has started grabbing at his toys and currently loves to shake Chappy’s musical egg and his giraffe rattle. He smiles and laughs and I SWEAR has already said his first word. Ha okay so I’m kind of kidding, kind of serious. They always say when babies speak their first word (usually Dada) they aren’t actually talking yet, just still putting sounds together that happen to come out as dada. Well Waylen did that a few weeks back, but instead of dada he said wow. And when I said he said wow, I mean he sounded like an adult saying wow. It was weird. So yeah basically my baby is a genius who started talking at 9 weeks. (Kidding) 

Now let me just say, sleep regression is reallll. My easy going baby became not quite as easy betweeen 9-10 weeks and my interval sleeping quickly turned into not sleeping at all. As the expert mommy I am (ha yeah right) I’ve concluded that our sleepless nights were caused by a combo of reflux, gas, and good old fashion cluster feeding due to a growth spurt. There were nights he’d eat for 20, I’d sit him up for 20 (to help with reflux,) he’d sleep for 20, and then we’d start all over. I can’t just blame the baby though for my zero sleep, it takes me WAY to long to actually fall asleep. Chappy will seriously hit the pillow and be out, unfortunately for me it takes closer to 30 or so minutes sooo if it wasn’t for that I would’ve at least slept a little. Some nights though he would wake up around 4-5 and only want to sleep someone’s arms. Is anyone else’s baby like that?! He would be fast asleep in my arms but as soon as I set him down he’d be wide awake screaming… and of course as soon as I picked him up he’d be out again. Sometimes being a mom is just like really awesome right?! ha. That’s when I’d wake Chappy up and make him take the bean. He was waking up at 5 to work anyways so I didn’t feel too bad. 

Luckily that little phase didn’t last too long and before we even hit 11 weeks he was back to sleeping 4+ hours at night and now will go up to 7 on a good night! Apparently “wonder weeks” are to blame and right after his irritable phase he did roll over so I guess they’re really a thing.

Some of Waylen’s favorite things these days are bath time, tummy time with Ramone, air druming with daddy, looking in mirrors and out windows, kisses from mom, being carried in his Ergo or Boba, and when anyone sings (mom) or raps (dad) to him. He doesn’t have too many dislikes, basically just riding in his car seat in Chappy’s car. That is literally the only time he will scream with no end ha. My car though, he loves! Yay me! 

In the end being a mom is still awesome even though I have become a little too dependent on coffee and donuts. Here are some adorable pictures of my tiny human from the last month. Enjoy! 

Postpartum: What No One Told Me

There are a bunch of wonderful… but mostly awful things people tell you about what happens after delivery; I’m sure I don’t need to get into all the gory details… I would like to make a point to mention though, just like everything else with pregnancy, those icky, horrible things don’t necessarily happen to everyone so I wouldn’t spend time fretting over them until you’re actually experiencing them! No painful peeing, hemorrhoids, or that unspeakable “second delivery” when you go #2 for me. Ha and I swear I was pretty worried about that last one after the things I’d read. Like more scared of that then actually delivering my baby. Now there are some other things that I did experience that I didn’t even realize we’re a thing. 

 

  1. Immediately after delivery my legs were SO shakey, like convulsing! Apparently it’s called “Labor Shakes” and is perfectly normal.  
  2. The first few times I stood up I felt like I was in an episode of The Walking Dead and all my organs were falling out of my abdomen. Makes sense though, they all had been smushed up in my ribs due to the 8lb baby who had taken over residency. (I swear my stomach used to growl in between my boobs ha.) Once he was gone they could finally retake their normal positions and they wasted no time (literally) falling into place ha
  3. Two words: night sweats. I’m not even someone who really sweats but OH MY GOSH did I have night sweats the first couple of weeks. 
  4. Dry Eye Syndrome. Luckily I don’t wear contacts which could make this an even more annoying issue but my eyes are SO dry. They constantly feel as if I have no tears at all and are quickly shriveling up to nothing.
  5. Postpartum Depression in dads. So this is totally a thing. Chappy was WAY more emotional after Waylen was born. Luckily it was all happy tears at commercials and puppies but one night I teased him that I thought I was supposed to be the depressed one which then peaked my interest so I googled and guess what? Postpartum depression in fathers is a real thing! 
  6. The Linea Nigra does not just go away. I always figured it would start fading immediately after delivery and be gone within a few weeks. Nope. This bad boy is here to stay… at least for a while. Apparently they can last for months or years (or in rare cases– forever) after delivery. Breastfeeding also keeps them longer so I guess I should get used to my swiggly little friend. 
  7. Speaking of weird things on your stomach, it may be abnormally tan compared to the rest of your body. Luckily this doesn’t last as long and will start fading a few weeks after delivery.
  8. Itchy skin and/or armpits while breastfeeding. My neck and collar bone area would seriously get SO itchy when breastfeeding in the beginning but luckily it only lasted the first few weeks. Apparently it has something to do with the hormones released during letdown or something, who knows!
  9. Boulders as boobs. Yes, I expected my boobs to get bigger what I didn’t expect was to get what I can only describe as porn star boobs. You know what I’m talking about.. like huge, fake, hard as rocks, abnormally perky… HA I swear. They eventually went down but I guess I now know what I’d look like with implants anddd that’s never going to happen 
  10. Breastfeeding can be messy. While you’re waiting until your milk supply to even out you can really soak your baby. Like a milk shower… I’m telling you … it can REALLY spray ha who knew?! 
  11. The thirst is real while breastfeeding. I could have just drank a gallon of water before nursing yet as soon as I started it would be as if I had spent the last 24 hrs. stranded on a desert island.
  12. Hair loss. Basically you haven’t been losing hair the last 9-10 months so when your hormones get back to normal you shed like crazy. This hasn’t happen to me yet (it usually occurs around the 4 month mark) but I am currently still stuck in the “my hair doesn’t grow phase” which is very convenient for the whole shaving my legs deal. 
  13. Phantom kicks. Remember those little flutters you felt in the beginning, well they can come back! Which then just makes you question if you were even feeling your baby to begin with, right?!

 
These are just a few of the many, MANY weird things that can happen post baby. Basically anything goes postpartum ha. Sometimes you swell, get acne, cramps, migraines, dry skin, hemorrhoids, body aches, and not to mention the fact that you literally are blessed with the longest period of your life. Seriously though I think you could go to your doctor with any crazy postpartum symptom and they’ll say it’s normal. Pregnancy and the aftermath can we awkward, uncomfortable, and just plain annoying. Trust me, it is not a glamorous situation but in the end you get an adorable tiny human that you LITERALLY MADE so it’s totally worth it! I promise! 

Tips for the Stay at Home Mom

Whether it’s permanent or just for Maternity Leave, being able to stay at home with your baby is seriously the best gift a mother can ask for but let’s be real, it is not a walk in the park. Did you know that stay at home moms have higher incidences of depression? It’s true! And after weeks staying at home on maternity leave I can see why. Being home with a child is hard work. It’s hard to be solely responsible for a tiny human. You spend the majority of your day trying to mold their little brains while also being devoid of any real adult interaction. It is imperative to make sure you make time to take care of yourself both physically and mentally. Here are a few tips I have for any Stay at Home Momma 

  1. Get Dressed. I cannot emphasize this one enough! You need to get up and get ready for the day even if you have zero plans, actually, especially if you have zero plans! When your babes are little you can easily get away with that sweat pant life but it will take a tole on you mentally. Even if it’s just some cute athletic wear, I’m telling you, take the extra time to get ready for the day! 
  2. Exercise. Whether it’s a hard core fitness routine or simply a stroll in the park. Get up and get active! Getting those endorphins flowing will really make a difference! 
  3. Take time for yourself. Get your hair done, get a manicure, take a bubble bath while you guzzle down a large glass of wine. Just make sure you take time out for yourself. If you want a happy baby you need to make sure you’re keeping yourself happy and healthy as well! 
  4. Get out with your friends. Whether you bring the baby or not, make sure you get some quality adult interaction. I am still not ready to leave Waylen for longer than a quick trip to Target but I still make sure to get out with my friends, just with baby in tow. Go to a brewery, dinner, walk in the park, or simply just hangout at someones house; do anything that keeps you from only baby talking for the rest of your life ha. 
  5. Embrace nap time. Everyone always says to nap when the baby naps. If that helps you, great! For me that doesn’t actually help me. (If needed, I like to nap after Chappy gets home from work.) I used nap time to get my chores done and it literally makes me feel so much more accomplished. Even if I don’t have any plans, have been in the same sweats for days, and haven’t showered in who knows how long, getting my chores list done makes me feel like a rock star ha. 

Of course every momma is different so find what works for you! These are just a few of the things I found that have really helped me keep it together, especially since Chappy has been working every day. It is SO important to take time for yourself but even more important not to feel guilty about it, so don’t! Just always remember that a happier momma leads to a happier baby in the end! 

Now here’s a cute picture of my “boss” just because 


And yes that is a roll in the middle of his forearm ha. He is clearly well fed!